On pain and empathy

por letivilasanjuan

“We shouldn’t have to turn every scar into a joke. We shouldn’t have to be witty or backtrack or second-guess ourselves when we say, this shit hurtWe shouldn’t have to disclaim- I know, I know, pain is old, other girls hurt– in order to defend ourselves from the old litany of charges: performative, pitiful, self-pitying, pity hoarding, pity mongering. The pain is what you make of it. You have to find something in it that yields. I understood my guiding imperative is: keep bleeding, but find some love in the blood.”

Leslie Jamison, The Empathy Exams

Cadaqués, 2015

Cadaqués, 2015

(*)I ain’t done much healing